Love Making and Sex
Even if your love life and sex life was on fire, you still probably came here because you think or maybe you know that it could be better. And chances are better than excellent that it can be better. The problem is that you are not sure how to make it better, maybe you are afraid of offending your partner, or maybe you just don’t know where to start.
You have come to the right place. No matter if you are very young, very “advanced in years”, or somewhere in between, you probably realize that sex is one of the most wonderful things that we have ever discovered about our bodies. Sex is not “naughty” or shameful, but it is something that illustrates the beautiful and wonderful “one-ness” that is a natural thing between two people who love each other.
But this is not a porn site. Sex is a beautiful thing and there are many aspects of it to be enjoyed, but you must realize that sex goes hand in hand with love. That is why love making is also known as sex, whereas sex does not necessarily mean love making. I mean, come on, cocker spaniels have sex, right? But there is not really “love” between two cocker spaniels.
As human beings, we have natural instincts and desires. Some of the strongest of those are the desire to be needed and to be loved in an intimate sort of way. It is the kind of love that is reserved for two people. Sure, you may love your father and your mother, but that is not the kind of love we are talking about here.
The kind of love we are talking about is the kind of love that you have for one person, the desire to be with that person, the desire to share as much of your life as possible with that person, and what naturally follows is the desire to be intimate with that person in the act of sexual intercourse.
But that is where the definitions of “sex” and “love making” part company again. Sex would be defined as the actual act of intercourse, but real love making is more than just that single aspect, much more. Love making involves the preparation for sex, the subtle hints during the day, the positive attitude you present, the kind words you speak, the quiet dinner, the romantic candles, the soft music and low lights, the conversation between the two of you where you both shut out the rest of the world so you can focus and concentrate on the other person.
That shows your desire to your partner and lets them know that they are indeed valued, loved, respected, and DESIRED. That is when true love making, accompanied by sex, is the most enjoyable and satisfying to both partners.
You and your partner are much more than cocker spaniels because you have the ability to love and to feel love, the ability to desire and be desired, the ability to touch and be touched, all of which plays into the whole equation of making love that is satisfying and wonderful for both of you.